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By admin, on May 10th, 2012  Did you ever have a film crew invade your home? Well, I just had that experience.
Last weekend 20th Century Fox took over my Upper Manhattan street with movie trucks, trailers, and a swarm of intensely focused people.
They were filming The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, with Sean Penn and Ben Stiller (no, I didn’t see either of them). It’s based on a short story that you may have read in high school, about a man who seeks escape from his humdrum existence with fantasies of derring-do in which he casts himself as the hero.
In James Thurber’s amusing tale, Walter Mitty is as ineffectual in real life as he is heroic in his daydreams.
This got me thinking about the role of fantasy in my own life.
It’s hard to admit, but I often have a tendency to project my plans and visions onto the future. The result  is that I feel inspired and optimistic, while keeping my dreams safely at a distance. I can convince myself this future will come to pass, but for now I don’t have to take action.
It’s as though creating the vision and feeling the excitement is enough. And besides, I get so many great ideas – which one should I pursue?
Does this ever happen to you? Do you, like me, sometimes find it easier to think, plan, vision and dream than to act?
I think this is true of many creative people. And a lot of entrepreneurs, too. We come up with idea after idea. We open ourselves to inspiration and receive amazing “spiritual downloads.” But we may not be so grounded in the physical realm. It’s often easier and more fun to stay “up there” – am I right?
It’s only recently that I started using the word “fantasy” for this tendency I have.“Fantasy” does not have as nice a connotation as “vision” or “inspiration.” But if the vision never takes form, while I keep convincing myself I will do it soon, then it could be called a fantasy.
When I first confronted myself with this word, it stung a little. But it also brought much-needed clarity to something I had not been looking at.
I don’t want my creative visions to be my “secret life” – do you? I don’t want to pretend to myself I’m really “going to do it,” all the while avoiding the real life risks that I’m afraid of. That fear is one of the largest factors in keeping action frozen and allowing fantasy to lull me into false complacency.
If you have a “secret life,” it may mean you have visions you’ve not known how to bring into manifestation. It may mean you don’t believe you can stretch that far, and be the person you’d have to be to live them. It may mean that your inner desires are at odds with your image of yourself or what you, or anyone you know, has done so far.
Your secret life may be a dream you haven’t ever spoken to another soul. Maybe you’ve not even fully admitted it to yourself – yet.
Moving from dreams to creating a new reality is not so easy. I won’t pretend it is. But here’s what I know: you CAN truly become the hero or heroine of your own life. It’s a process and there are steps.
The most important steps are identifying your vision, knowing what actions to take, and starting to take them.
For that it helps a whole lot to have someone to guide you, to hold your hand, and to believe in your vision... to believe in you even more than you believe in yourself!
If you want to stop living a SECRET LIFE and start manifesting your dreams right here, right now, give me a call. It’s on me.
By the way, I am currently offering a trio of sessions to help you identify your Vision - and to look at the first steps you need to take to make it a reality.
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By admin, on April 27th, 2012 
I’ve been thinking a lot about what it takes to succeed. Perhaps you have too.
And I’ve come to certain conclusions. Some I’ve known for a long time, some are new awarenesses. I want to share some of these with you now.
Here are the basics:
- Purpose. When you connect to the deepest motivation of your being, the thing you were born to do, to be, to give - thenyou turn on the power source within you that will propel you forward beyond all obstacles. When you really “get” what your inner purpose is, and say Yes to it, you will start the process of aligning your energy, heart, mind, and actions around that forward momentum, to become unstoppable. When your actions line up with your soul’s reason for taking form, doors open for you, synchronicities show up, and your path is made clear. Because your soul is on board, the spiritual realms open up to help you. It’s a magical experience!
- Clearing Blocks. However, most of us have all kinds of resistance, fears, doubts, hesitations, or reasons why we think we can’t or shouldn’t go forward, even if we know our purpose. We make things hard for ourselves. We each have our personal bag of “stuff” that we drag around with us, that defines who we think we are. Our “stuff” keeps us stuck in the same old place no matter how much we try to change. If we do not do the work to clear those blocks, we will continue to walk in circles, in our familiar limited patterns. The good news is, it is possible to clear them – if you know how.
- Vision Plan. Once you know your purpose and clear your blocks, you need a concrete vision to bring into manifestation. You must take the high inspiration of your purpose and ground it in reality, by seeing the possibilities for living it in the world. From those possibilities, you must identify and choose the one that calls to you most, commit to it, and start taking actions. This is where you shift from Inner to Outer Action. And once you commit to engaging in action, there are pathways to follow and secrets to learn. The main secret that I have learned is this: Don’t give up!
Those are the Big Three, the central Keys to Success. Without any of them, you won’t get very far. Without clearing your blocks, you will continually stumble. Without a clear vision and plan, you won’t have a map or a destination. And without aligning with what your soul is here to do, you may achieve surface success, but it won’t be satisfying.
There are many other specifics that may be relevant to your personal success. For me, some of them have been deciding that it’s really okay to live on the Earth plane, and being willing to cooperate with the laws of physical reality – for instance, those irksome limits of time and space. That includes clearing clutter, keeping agreements with myself, showing up in a responsible way.
For you those particulars may be different. We each have our history, our self-images, our lifelong limiting beliefs, and they all come up to be worked on and cleared when our goal is to bring our purpose and vision into manifestation. In fact, there is no more intense or accelerated path to self-growth and personal transformation - I highly recommend it!
Another thing I highly recommend for each of those steps is that you have a guide or wise companion. The habits of the ego will just not let us take certain steps if left to our familiar self.
For this purpose, I’ve put together a little bite-sized program of only three sessions, at a very special reduced rate, designed to open the three Keys to Success for you in a quick and powerful way. Click here to read more about it: www.YourTimeToBloom.com/springspecial .
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By admin, on November 11th, 2011
Today is an auspicious date: 11-11-11!
There has been much anticipation of this date and the new era it may herald. The triple “master number” (11 being an important master number in numerology), along with other influences, signifies to many a turning point, a portal to a new dimension. I have heard this date described as a gateway, an initiation, a quickening on the way to the ascension of 2012.
Are we really receiving an influx of energy, to lift us to a higher frequency? I believe that is definitely happening in an ongoing way, but is there something special about today, 11-11-11? Is this the beginning of a New Age?
I don’t pretend to know the answer, but there’s one significance of special dates such as this that I really appreciate: they are focal points for collective awareness
There is much power in pooling human consciousness towards a common goal, much as rays of light become aligned, from diffusion into a single laser beam. It is a way of manifesting the oneness that we all are feeling more and more, and which 11-11-11 is calling us to remember and honor.
One of the lessons we are all learning is the power and necessity of conscious intention as the first step towards manifesting what we are called to create. How much more powerful is the aligned intention of a group, focused on a high vision.
Many of us on the Earth today I believe were born to help midwife the transformation of consciousness that is humanity’s greatest challenge and promise – and greatest necessity if we are to survive! Joining together in collective intention is one of the technologies required to bring this about.
The crises we as a species are facing will continue to call more and more of us to come together in unity. That is one of the blessings of this time.
May the focus placed on 11-11-11 also serve as a doorway – one of many – into the re-collection of our spiritual vision and purpose, helping us to take the next steps forward in our evolution towards becoming who we were always meant to be: spiritual explorers in a never-ending mystery.
By admin, on October 4th, 2011
I’m becoming more and more committed to seeking guidance - my own higher guidance and wisdom that’s always available when I remember to connect to it.
(Can you guess what the image on the left has to do with hearing my inner guidance? Read on and you’ll find out!)
Do you know that your own inner wisdom is always available for you to hear?
I bet you do. I bet you’ve had more than one experience of awe at the clarity and loving compassion that’s come through you in one form or another – for yourself or another.
But, if you’re like me, you also forget it’s there, forget to turn in that direction, forget to ask, and forget to listen.
I certainly forget, all the time. Like with any practice, remembering to do it, and developing a daily habit of one or two simple actions, is the most important step – and the hardest one.
Meditating, journaling with my higher self, or consulting a card to connect to my guidance for the day - that’s easy. It’s also enjoyable and helpful. My day goes better if I start it that way. I feel more centered and supported. And I remember what’s important.
Yet remembering to make that inner connection for some reason seems to be hard. Overcoming the resistance that is the ego’s reaction to any change, including a change of consciousness – that’s what’s hard.
That’s why reminders help. That’s why cultivating a habit until it feels like second nature, like brushing my teeth, is so important. That’s why taking seriously the importance of this inner connection and making a commitment to it that’s not based on how I feel, is major.
That remembering, and developing a regular habit of inner connection, can actually be the turning point of life.
The other day, before hosting a webinar for my friend Pam Hale about her wonderful tool for accessing inner wisdom, the Sand Spirit Insight Cards, I decided to pull a card from her deck for myself.
I turned the cards face down on my bed, swirled them around with my hand and let my eye be drawn to one card that seemed to be calling me. When I turned it over, I saw the suggestion of a figure leaning over to the left. (That’s the card featured above. Take a look and see if you see the same thing.)
But I realized that from the figure’s vantage point, she was leaning to her right. Her head was clearly tilting in that direction, and perched on top of her head, a little right of center, was a little white feather – like a delicate antenna pointed at the sky.
What was the message I got from this card? You guessed it: Listen. Connect to guidance. Tune in. Lean into my right brain and keep that antenna up.
This is also the message of the Sand Spirit cards themselves. So the message was personal for me, but also related to the topic we would be discussing on the call.
I find that when I feel resistance, the easiest thing is to pull a card. Many oracle cards spell out their meaning for you. What’s special about the Sand Spirits is that they invoke and invite your active participation, your tuning in to your own intuition and wisdom. They help you develop inner receptivity to your own wisdom.
The Sand Spirits invite you into a relationship. And they can be companions for life.
By the way, when I checked the number of this particular card- for each card has its own number – it was 29, that day’s date, the date of our call about the Sand Spirit Cards.
There are no accidents!
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To find out how you can learn to use the Sand Spirit Insight Cards to develop your own connection to your inner wisdom, click here for information about Pam’s Virtual Retreat.
By admin, on September 20th, 2011  I had an inspiring experience today: a Sand Spirit card session with my good friend, the spiritual coach, shamanic practitioner, and author, Pamela Hale.
The Sand Spirit Insight Cards are a brand new, unique and beautiful self-help tool. This evocative deck of cards contains images from the sea that Pam – who’s also a photographer – captured on a beach in Mexico. With the colorations of the minerals in the sand, colored stones, and bits of vegetation – all exactly as she found them – these images suggest magical and mysterious figures. The more you look at them, the more you see. When you ask them questions, they answer you. It is an illuminating experience to work with these spirits from the sand.
To give you an example of how vividly they can communicate, I’ve included the first two cards I chose, representing my past and present. I was astonished when I looked into the images – the one of the past appeared to be wearing robes that were weighted down with heavy stones, while the one for the present looks to be 9 1/2 months pregnant, and glowing with luminous colors.
I chose other cards as well, and as Pam helped me to explore them from different angles and in different ways, suggesting questions for me to ask, and pointing out images that appeared to her, more and more of the potentials of my life were revealed to me. A card that had at first seemed to defy interpretation turned out to be the richest in associations and totally uplifting to me.
What’s different about this tool is that it requires you to exercise your own intuition, to engage in a dialogue with the images, and to trust the wisdom that arises within you in response to your questions. So these cards act as an oracle that really speaks to you in the voice of your own inner wisdom. And they are a thrilling aesthetic treat at the same time, carrying an ethereal beauty and the fragrance of the sea.
As Pam describes them, the Sand Spirit Insight Cards are gifts from the sea that activate inner wisdom, creativity, healing, and transformation. That they are.
If you would like to experience these amazing Insight Cards for yourself at no expense, you can attend a free teleseminar Pam and I will be offering together on Sept. 29th.
Click here for more information and then scroll down to register. I promise you, you will be very glad you did!
By admin, on August 12th, 2011  I‘m interested in transforming limiting beliefs. Beliefs about money, success, self-value, as well as many other things that people hold limiting beliefs about.
There is much talk about beliefs in the air these days, in the healing and self-help communities – and that’s a good thing.
Yet a client challenged me recently and asked if it were accurate to speak of beliefs – even limiting beliefs – if what you are believing is really true. Why call it a belief if it’s true? Isn’t there a difference?
I thought that was an interesting enough question to answer here. It made me think.
What is a belief, anyway? Is it an opinion? Is it a deeply held conviction that I defend with my life? (We see a lot of that in the public arena – in politics and religion.)
So here’s what I came up with: A belief is any concept about reality that you hold as true and which therefore determines how you view yourself and life, how you feel, think, and behave. Continue reading What If Your Beliefs Are Really True??
By admin, on April 29th, 2011 
We are souls on a journey.
You are a soul on a journey – that I know about you. Where you are on your journey I do not know, and you do not know.
Your purpose is to walk on that path, using your heart as your navigator.
The more you say yes to the highest desire of your heart – even if you don’t yet know what that is – the more dependably will it serve as your guide.
Picture yourself on your path of life. It stretches in front of you and behind you. You have come so far – congratulations!
But you cannot see clearly where the path leads.
That’s okay. You do not have to see far ahead – only where to put your next foot.
Let the light in your heart serve as your lantern to illuminate the path ahead and show you where to place your next step.
Consult that light in your heart any time you are in doubt. Always come back to that; it can be trusted.
You are exactly where you need to be. Trust the journey. It will take you to the very place your heart desires.
By admin, on April 28th, 2011
If you are a Spiritual Creative, you are probably conscious of being on a path – a spiritual path, a life path, or a path of self-discovery.
But being on a path does not necessarily mean that you have a clear idea of where that path is taking you. Sometimes all you know is that you want to move towards some greater alignment with yourself and your purpose, whatever that may be.
What if your vision is just a feeling, a sense, a glimmer of possibility? Something is calling you – but what is it, exactly?
There can be an enormous yearning in your soul without having to know precisely what that yearning is for.
How can you move towards such an elusive goal? . . . Continue reading The Path Unfolds Only When You Walk On It
By admin, on April 28th, 2011 
When I created this painting – many years ago, now – it was my attempt to depict one image of the spiritual path. I called it The Quest or The Seeker.
And for many, many years I have thought of myself as a seeker. Seeking spiritual connection, seeking learning, seeking my way, seeking my purpose.
I think some of us are born with a hunger. And some – like me – can feel more comfortable seeking than finding. Seeking is how I knew myself. But when you are identified with being a seeker, it tends to keep your goals always on the horizon. There is comfort in thinking attainment is just around the corner, will arrive the day after tomorrow.
Eventually I got wise to this tendency in myself. It will always be part of me, but I now make an effort to stay mindful of when I am using the seeker identity to keep from taking action.
I have learned that I don’t have to be perfect to take action. I don’t have to wait until I feel completely ready. I don’t even have to be sure that I’m on my perfect path that is leading to my ultimate perfect purpose.
I’ve learned that for me the medicine is taking action – and that taking actions beyond my comfort zone actually create miracles.
By admin, on April 7th, 2011 
I’ve been thinking a lot about next steps – my next steps, the next steps you in my community are making, and the next steps that I believe our world is on the brink of.
These are not just baby steps I’m talking about. I believe we’re all on the verge of something big – a true transformation.
And yet, the actual steps have to be easily do-able, or we will never take them. And that includes lots of tiny steps along the way. As we all have heard, a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.
What about you? Is there a journey you feel called to embark on? Is there a longing, an inner pull, maybe even a clear or semi-clear vision that you’ve been wanting to bring forth?
And is what’s stopping you that you’re just not sure what your first step should be?
What excites me most about what’s happening in the world today is the intersection of two levels of purpose that a lot of us are responding to.
Many people are feeling the call of their soul, the call of their personal purpose, whether that call is clear as a bell or still shrouded in mist.
And at the same time, many are also feeling another call, the call to share in a much bigger, planetary purpose. . . . Continue reading Called to Purpose: Your Next Steps
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Did you ever have a film crew invade your home? Well, I just had that experience.
is that I feel inspired and optimistic, while keeping my dreams safely at a distance. I can convince myself this future will come to pass, but for now I don’t have to take action.
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